Recovering From Nice Guy Syndrome? I'll Help You Finish the Work.
NMMNG Certified Coach, trusted by Dr. Robert Glover to help train his certified coaches.
You've read the book. You know the patterns: the covert contracts, the approval-seeking, the fear of conflict, the anger you learned to swallow. Now it's time to actually live differently.
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I was certified by Dr. Robert Glover in Nice Guy Recovery in 2020, after eight years immersed in this work and four years coaching men directly through it. Today I serve as Program Staff for Dr. Glover's NMMNG Coach Certification Program, training the next generation of certified coaches alongside Dr. Glover himself. I also facilitate calls inside Integration Nation, so if you've been on one of those calls, there's a good chance you already know my voice.
Dr. Robert Glover on why he trusts Jay to help train his certified coaches
“I am a proponent of learning from those who are doing their own work. Jay Scott has not only done the deep dive into challenging his own Nice Guy patterns and behaviors, he continues to bring a beginner's mind to his own personal work of recovery. More than anything, this qualifies him to lead other recovering Nice Guys down the road of becoming Integrated Men. Jay has my highest recommendation.”
Dr. Robert Glover · Author, No More Mr. Nice Guy · Founder, Integration Nation
You Understand the Syndrome. That Was Never the Hard Part.
Reading NMMNG gives you the map. It doesn't walk the terrain for you. Most of the men I work with have already done the reading. Many have sat in on Integration Nation calls, maybe a TPI weekend, maybe the Mentor Program. They can explain covert contracts in their sleep. And they're still avoiding the hard conversation with their wife. Still saying yes when they mean no. Still numbing instead of feeling. That gap isn't a knowledge problem. It's an integration problem, and no book, no matter how good, closes it alone. This is where structured, private, one-on-one work makes the difference reading can't.
How We Close the Gap
Not more information. The parts of the work reading alone can't reach.
Nervous System Regulation
Before you can change the pattern, you have to stay present with the discomfort that used to trigger it. Most recovery work skips this step and wonders why insight never sticks. We start here.
Shadow Work and Integration
The parts Nice Guy conditioning taught you to disown (your anger, your desire, your need) get integrated, not just understood. This is where "Integrated Man" stops being a phrase and starts being how you operate.
Recovery in Practice
We apply the core issues to your actual life (your marriage, your career, your money, your sex life) with a coach who has lived this recovery himself and continues to, not one who only studied it.
Who This Is For
If this is you, you're exactly who this work is built for.
- You've read No More Mr. Nice Guy, maybe more than once.
- You've done Integration Nation calls, a TPI weekend, or the Mentor Program.
- You know the language. You’re still stuck in the same loops.
- You want private, one-on-one, structured support. Not another group call.
What the Work Actually Changes
★★★★★
“I used to avoid every hard conversation and swallow what I needed to say. Now I say it directly, in the moment, and the resentment’s gone.”
Lucas H.
★★★★★
“I stopped performing for approval and over-explaining myself. I trust myself now, and for the first time I feel whole, not just fine.”
Cory K.
★★★★★
“My anxiety ran everything. It’s dropped hard. I stay grounded under pressure now, and it beat years of therapy.”
Mark M.
Results from the Unshakable Man Method. NMMNG and Integration Nation client stories are being added as they come in.
You Don't Need More Information. You Need a Guide Who's Already Walked It.
You've likely already invested real time, and real money, into your own recovery. The book. The calls. Maybe the certification program itself. You don't need another resource to consume. You need someone who has walked this exact road, someone Dr. Glover trusts enough to train his own coaches, to walk it with you, one-on-one.
A few quick questions so Jay can understand where you are. No cost, no obligation. It takes about two minutes.
Would you rather just talk?